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New Year's Eve at Grandma's: A Pretend Midnight Plan
If the grandchildren are sleeping over on New Year’s Eve, give them a pretend midnight and a normal bedtime. Hold the countdown about an hour before their usual bedtime, ideally at the moment it really is midnight somewhere else, then go straight into the routine their parents use every night. Children under six don’t need the real midnight. What they need is the party, the noise and the feeling of being in on it, followed by their usual bedtime. Then plan for the real midnight, when the neighbors’ fireworks may wake them, and keep New Year’s morning at their usual wake-up time.
I’ve hosted New Year’s Eve for grandchildren more than once while their parents went out, and the pretend midnight is the best trick I know.
Why the real midnight doesn’t work for little ones
A four-year-old who stays up until midnight doesn’t get a magical memory. She gets a second wind at nine, a meltdown at ten, and a New Year’s Day that falls apart by lunch.
The numbers explain why. Nemours KidsHealth says preschoolers need about 10 to 13 hours of sleep a day, including naps, and recommends regular bedtimes and wake-up times. A child who goes to bed at midnight and still wakes at 6:30, because small children’s bodies don’t read the calendar, has lost several hours she can’t make up.
That second wind is real, too. Betteroo’s guide to sleep for three- to six-year-olds mentions the evening “second wind” some children get, and suggests moving bedtime to match when a child is actually ready to sleep. On New Year’s Eve, the excitement makes that wind blow harder. The trick is to finish the party before it starts.
Pick a midnight that’s real somewhere
This is the part grandchildren remember. Instead of pretending, find a city where it really is midnight at a sensible hour, and count down with it. In winter, London runs on Greenwich Mean Time, and Rio de Janeiro is three hours behind it.
| Your time zone | London’s midnight | Rio de Janeiro’s midnight |
|---|---|---|
| Eastern | 7 p.m. | 10 p.m. |
| Central | 6 p.m. | 9 p.m. |
| Mountain | 5 p.m. | 8 p.m. |
| Pacific | 4 p.m. | 7 p.m. |
On the East Coast, London’s New Year arrives at 7 p.m., which is just about perfect for a preschooler with a 7:30 or 8:00 bedtime. Out West, Rio’s 7 p.m. midnight does the same job. Find the city on a globe or a map first, so the countdown comes with a little geography lesson. That’s the retired teacher in me.
The pretend-midnight hour
Keep the party to about forty-five minutes, and end it with the countdown rather than starting with it.
- Make noisemakers. Pots and wooden spoons, a jar of dried beans with the lid taped on, a bell. Making them is half the fun.
- Pour something fizzy. Sparkling apple cider in unbreakable cups feels very grown-up. Pour it early in the hour, not at the end, so the sugar and the bathroom trip come well before bed.
- Do a “year in review.” Ask each grandchild for the best thing that happened this year and one thing they want to do next year. Write the answers down and give them to the parents. It’s a lovely thing to keep.
- Count down from ten, loudly. Then cheer, bang the pots, hug everyone, and call it done.
If you want to watch a real countdown on TV, check it’s no later than an hour before bedtime. KidsHealth recommends turning screens off at least an hour before bed, so a countdown at 7 p.m. and a bedtime at 8 fits nicely.
Then bedtime, exactly as usual
The moment the cheering stops, the evening turns ordinary. Bath, pajamas, teeth, the two books the parents always read, the song, the lights. Do it in their order, with their comfort toy and their nightlight. The routine tells a child that the party is over and the night is normal.
Don’t promise to wake them at the real midnight. Some children will hold you to it, and a child woken at midnight on purpose is a child awake until two.
When the real midnight wakes them
The real New Year can be loud: fireworks, car horns, the neighbors’ party. Plan for it.
- Run white noise from the start of the night. A fan-based machine like the Yogasleep Dohm Classic gives a steady sound that softens bangs from outside. Put it on at bedtime so it’s part of the room, not something that suddenly starts at midnight.
- If they wake, go in calmly. KidsHealth’s advice for a preschooler who wakes at night is to offer comfort if the child is frightened, say it’s time to sleep, and keep the visit short. “That’s fireworks for the New Year. We already had ours. Back to sleep.”
- Don’t take them to the window. It’s tempting. It also means you’ll be up together for an hour.
Babies on New Year’s Eve
If there’s a baby in the house, the party is for the older children, and the baby goes down at the normal time in a safe sleep space. The NIH Safe to Sleep campaign describes a safe sleep surface as firm, flat (“like a table, not a hammock”) and level, covered only with a fitted sheet. It also warns that couches and armchairs are particularly dangerous when an adult falls asleep on them while feeding or comforting a baby. That’s worth remembering at 11:45, when you’re tired and the baby has woken up. My guide to baby sleep at grandma’s house covers setting up the travel crib.
Sparklers and fireworks
Leave them to the professionals. Cincinnati Children’s injury-prevention team says sparklers can burn at temperatures over 1000 degrees F and can easily set clothing on fire, that children should never play with or light fireworks, and that fireworks are best used only by professionals. A flashlight and a pot to bang are plenty.
A new year, the same bedtime
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New Year’s morning
The grandchildren will wake at their usual time, or earlier. Their parents probably won’t. Agree the pickup time in advance, and assume it’ll be later than they say.
Keep the morning at the usual wake-up time and an ordinary breakfast, then something quiet: a walk, a puzzle, a pancake breakfast. Hand them back with three facts: when they went to bed, whether anything woke them, and what they ate. For children who wake before six, the plan in my Christmas morning at grandma’s post works on New Year’s Day too.
Where I make it worse
- Letting the party run on “because it’s a special night.” Every extra half hour at seven costs an hour the next afternoon.
- Saving the sweets for the countdown. A cookie at 7:00 p.m. is fine. A cookie, cider and chocolate coins at 7:00 p.m. is a long bedtime.
- Changing the routine to make it “special.” The routine is what makes it safe to be at Grandma’s. The party is the special part.
If you’re planning the whole sleepover, my sleepover at grandma’s checklist covers the rest. And if the parents want one plan that works at both houses, Betteroo builds sleep plans by age that a grandparent can follow too.
FAQ: New Year’s Eve with the grandkids
Should young children stay up until midnight on New Year’s Eve?
For children under six, usually not. Preschoolers need about 10 to 13 hours of sleep a day, and most still wake early on New Year’s Day. A pretend midnight before their usual bedtime gives them the party without the lost sleep.
What is a pretend midnight?
A countdown held at an earlier hour, often when it really is midnight in another time zone. On the East Coast, London’s midnight arrives at 7 p.m. Eastern.
How do you keep fireworks from waking the grandkids?
Run white noise from bedtime, close the curtains, and if they wake, comfort them briefly and settle them back down without going to the window.
Are sparklers safe for young children?
Cincinnati Children’s says sparklers can burn at over 1000 degrees F and easily set clothing on fire, and that children should never play with fireworks. Skip them and let children bang pots instead.
